FRIENDS

You know what I "worked form home" today(supposedly). It was booooring. It somehow doesnt feel like going to the office. Did I get some work done? well that I wouldnt comment upon.

I thought I would never write a post again. Reading and commenting is more fun.
However , here I am , pushing myself to write, just for the heck of it.

I wrote five posts, a fictional experience, a real-life experience, a love letter, a love story and a movie review......... and DELETED all the drafts.

Disclaimer:
I apologise for the incoherence in what you are about to read.

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Now that I have said My hello to the world, what next?
Let me talk about some serious structures. I think friends would be interesting.

I tried hard to define friendship , this is what google came up with "Caring for but never trying to own ".

When I think back , at the different kinds of friendships I had, I have this sour-sweet feeling. Dont know why? Feeling particularly lonely these days. Let me look back at those ppl I have found and lost and am searching for.

Some issues I had/have:

1) I always found it difficult to be friends with seniors (> 3 yrs). Still dont know why?
I could easily mingle with younger ppl and ppl of my age. I dont have a friend among my seniors at college or school . (Wont help my career :( )

2) I had never had girl friends (at school) , but was always attracted to the studious , inteligent girls, pretty faces were never an attraction to me. Infact had quite a few crushes (usually the top rankers)

3) I look for too much in a relationship and give too little till I receive.


First, there were the malayalee boys at KG school , I dont e ven remember their names. I somehow dont seem to connect with that life (age 2-7) and those friends are lost forever. There was nothing to BOND us together.

Then the move to coimbatore , we moved into a lower middle class locality with 1500 houses, with a lot of children in our age group (in any age group actually) . We chose our friends carefully, we were quite a gang.
This is where I developed some long lasting friendships , I still have contacts with most of these people, the BOND was CRICKET. You wouldnt believe it, we played cricket together for a litle over ten years , almost DAILY.

The friends at school were few and far in between. One gift I had was, I could connect with anyone, and was easily attracted to other ppls interests. So people who had remotely similar interests as me became my friends (no close friends). This was that stage in life when "how you look" doesnt determine how many friends u have. I have a "hi bye " relationship with a few , perhaps I dint do enough to maintain the bond.

Last few years at school flew past , I don remember having spent anytime with friends during this time. It was either school or tuition (that would require another post) or cricket.

Then came college, GOD was it great. The best part of my life from an emotional point of view.
The spirits were high, I made some truly great friends, great in every sense of the word. There were calls, treats, combined study, industrial visits, movies....coffe brown, cafe coffe day...etc....etc... (I wouldnt dream of going to either of these places now). The BOND was stronger this time around (or so I think). What was the bond? - I think GOALLESSNESS.

But as goals and plans started to materialise, the rift started, each one went his own way (me included). Now there are very few calls, almost no treats , not even meetings. Our Jobs dont help it either , whom to blame?

Well I am trying my best through orkut, facebook, Hi5 ....

Friends at the workplace? Posibilities are you will find a different person sitting in the adjacent cube every 3 months. Not enough time to forge a relationship I think......atleast for a guy like me

Thoughts:

To me , friends are to pass time. Dont make it a deeper relationship.

Dont look for a friend in need, waste of time. pessimistic huh ....how many would disagree?
( in my case i m reaping wat i sowed..... )


Just curious , How many of you would say you really have a friend who would do anything for you and be there for you always?